Lost my cat one week today

Lisa, I'm so sorry to hear about Autumn. Your message brought tears to my eyes. She must have been very special. It's almost a year since I said goodbye to my sweet Mei Ling. She was with my 17 years (she was 18 1/2). I knew that it was the kindest thing - the best thing - I could do. She had cancer and was in pain....I had to help her. It is never easy to lose a friend. You might find comfort at www.petloss.com. I don't think I could have made it without the help from the people there. They have grief counselors-people who have lost their own friends and know what it's like to know the pain. They help you to focus on the happy times you had with your pets. They have a nightly conference and a weekly memorial service (for all pets who have passed on). Write anytime.

Lisa,

I am so sorry for your lost, I lost my two oldest, July 31st will be the one year anniversary of Tyrone's death, and I lost Z this past March. Both were 15 when they passed. It never gets easier, so I can sympathize completely.

When you are ready, you will know. Please, though, when you decide you are have an open mind, do not look for one 'just like' Autumn. It is not fair to the kitten, you, nor Autumn's memory. Since I have lost my oldest two I have gained four more, none of them are like either of my old guys, and trust me, I would love to have another one exactly like Tyrone (my baby) or Z. They all have certain personality traits of my lost babies, but none of them are exactly like them. Plus kittens' personalities tend to evolve - as babies they can be attached to your hip, but when they hit teenage years, they have better things to do (like typical teenagers). But I still love them all.

And when you are ready, look at your local shelter. Kitten season is in full-bloom now, and most shelters are over-flowing with cats and kittens. And probably will be until the weather starts getting cold.

I am sorry for you loss. The pain is awful, but it does get better. I still cry for Tyrone or Z on occassion, but they are in a better place than being here and sick. I'll see them again on the Rainbow Bridge one day. In the meantime I have many memories, even though they are no longer here.

Take care, Autumn will be watching over you now, your guardian angel.

We are so sorry for your loss. You have our deepest sympathy. Though it was best for your kitty, it was a terribly painful thing to do and we hope your pain eases as you remember good times with her. We hope, too, that you'll soon find another kitty to share your lives.

Jeanne

I did reply to your post on a.b.p.a. my sincere condolences.